In our little church group, a man told me this past week that he filed for divorce.
As I examined the situation, several points became clear.
The first questions: Did your wife commit adultery against you?
This would be scriptural cause for divorce.
Mt. 5:32 ... Jesus said ... That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
He said his wife did not commit adultery against him.
This is the primary scriptural grounds for a man to divorce his wife. When there is no adultery, it would put the man in a better position if the wife left him rather than for him to divorce a "faithful" wife. If he divorces a faithful wife and she marries another man, then this husband who divorced her will be the cause of her adultery that occurs when she marries another man.
This man who is in our little church group withdrew his divorce proceedings.
He said he gets so angry ...
I sent the following to him:
The
most important thing is for you to pray every time the anger comes back
... talk to God as you would talk to your best friend. Tell him how
angry you are ... If there is something you would like God to do for you ask HIM.
Do
this every time the bad thoughts come to you. Turn them into prayer by
taking those thoughts to God as you would discuss things with your best
friend. Don't hold back ... Tell God how you feel.
I
have a feeling you are a mild mannered man inwardly. Anyone of us can
get stirred up. But the answer is turning to God in prayer.
Love, Joan
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Another thing that came forth as we worked through this divorce subject is the following:
The Bible says the woman is the weaker vessel. The man will have to put up with more in a marriage in most cases, the man being better equipped to endure the emotional gratings that are likely to happen in a relationship.
I Peter 3:7 ... 7Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
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Another thing that came forth as we worked through this divorce subject is the following:
The Bible says the woman is the weaker vessel. The man will have to put up with more in a marriage in most cases, the man being better equipped to endure the emotional gratings that are likely to happen in a relationship.
I Peter 3:7 ... 7Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.