Friday, October 3, 2014

Sound doctrine for women

Pam Padgett - teacher 

Titus 2:1 But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine: ...  3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; 4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.


Many wives and mothers today work outside their homes, leaving their children in the care of others so they can try to achieve in fleshly ways.  They do not want to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands.  These things are sound doctrine, showing what is right in the sight of God.    


My younger sister, Tammy, and her first husband had four children.  When the children were young (approx. 3-9 years old) my older sister told me during a phone call that Tammy did not feel fulfilled staying home and wanted to get a job.  But Tammy's husband wanted to provide for the family and for her to stay home and care for their home and children.  This was presented very negatively toward Tammy's husband.  Obviously Tammy was spreading evil about her husband and this was being passed on by my older sister.

After this phone call, I was also stirred up against her husband and turned to God and laid all this out before Him.  I was immediately shown that Tammy was the problem, not her husband.  She needed to love her husband, care for their children, and care for their home, not look for fulfillment in a job outside their home.

I lived in another state from my sisters and my parents, so wrote a letter to Tammy telling her these things and urging her to do them.  I don't remember all that I told her, but some time after sending the letter I saw Titus 2:4-5 and realized this is what I had done.  But rather than receiving these things and changing her way, Tammy sent a very angry letter back to me.

A few years later I learned that my parents helped Tammy purchase a building and setup a day care business.  I was shocked to hear this.  I tried to talk with my parents pointing out that Tammy was rebelling against her husband and they were helping her in this, but they would not listen.  As I recall, it was not long after this that Tammy and her husband divorced.  After the divorce, my parents also helped Tammy purchase a home.

Tammy rebelled against her husband as well as against the message I delivered to her (both were according to what we're told in Titus 2).  She insisted on getting a job instead of keeping at home, caring for her husband and children, and obeying her husband.  And my parents helped her in her rebellious way.  A terrible thing to do. 


About 25 years later, Tammy's oldest daughter, Michelle had married.  She and her husband were expecting their first child.  Michelle had been a secretary at a school and wanted to return to work after the baby was born and the new school year started.  At the same time my parents wanted to move near relatives who could help them as they got older.  So my parents moved to the small town where Michelle and her husband live to care for their baby and allow Michelle to return to work.

This looked like an ideal situation for everyone involved. But this is not the case.

Joan was given information in this ... My parents and my niece have conspired together to abandon a child.   My parents and my niece worked out a way for her to be able to leave her child in order to go work.  Opposite to the sound doctrine we're given in Titus 2

Titus 2:4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

I'm very glad to have this brought out so I won't live in deception regarding my family and this situation. And I want to uphold what God has said, not carried away with what is not according to scripture.