Joan Boney ... apostle/prophet
Eze. 20:31 ... For when ye offer your gifts, when ye make your sons to pass through the fire, ye pollute yourselves with all your idols, even unto this day: and shall I be enquired of by you, O house of Israel?
When someone offends us and we complain about what he did to us in front of other people, we make those other people "walk through the fire" of our anger.
Instead we need to stop, separate ourselves, talk to God about the problem and settle it with God. If God shows us something to do to put the fire of the offense out, we need to do that. Usually these things we strive about are secular things and really do not matter though at the time of strife these things seem to matter.